IN the BOX!
Parenting can be super hard right? It IS equally as rewarding, but not always sunshine and roses. Just the other morning I opened the lid of two separate toilets in my house, only to find my son’s bottle shoved in one and a box of crayons in the other one. I distinctly remember giggling and then saying to myself (out loud); “Yup, this is my life now”. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t change it for the world! I guess, I just too often find myself doubting my abilities as a mother. I have a constant battle between the opinions of others, my own motherly instinct and theory based knowledge. I’m still in the process of finding a balance between it all, and so, want to invite you to come on the journey with me.
We live in a world filled with boxes. Nowadays, it’s not only our children that are put in boxes but us as parents too. We get sold the notion that there is a certain recipe to follow when it comes to parenting our children and should we not follow those steps or use those ingredients, we’re bound to fail.
I’m here to tell you differently, though, and yes I’m preaching to the choir here. I have this theory, that just as each child has been uniquely made, so we as parents have been uniquely equipped to deal with each of our children in a unique way. Wow, I used the word unique quite a lot there and by no coincidence. The meaning of unique is as follows; ‘being the only one of its kind; unlike anything else’. What might work for one child will not necessarily work for another. This not only counts for parenting but even therapy, teaching etc. I think what I’m trying to get to, is that we need to stop trying put our children in boxes but also stop putting ourselves in boxes.
Yes, there is an endless amount of research out there to guide and assist us in the process. You can ask my husband, I love reading research studies and books, to the point that it can start becoming annoying. I truly believe that knowledge is power, not only as a parent, but as a professional. Let me ask you this though? What did the human race do to raise their young before science, before technology? Could it be that we are just overcomplicating a very instinctive or natural role?
This has just been a burning question that I’ve had, as a mother and an OT. I would love to hear your thoughts on this? Leave a comment below.